Widow Discovers Husband’s Infidelity after His Death, Tracks Down Each of His 5 Mistresses

When a woman unexpectedly loses her husband, her life is turned upside down. Julie’s husband Henry died unexpectedly, and she was left with more heartbreaking secrets than she ever imagined.

Julie met Henry in her twenties. Because she was shy and insecure around men, her surprise at his advances caught her off guard.

Henry’s unrelenting cheerfulness and great gestures made to Julie during their relationship was what attracted Julie. Their relationship was filled romance and passion.

Julie spoke on the Oprah Winfrey Radio Show. Source: Youtube.com/OWN HENRY and JULIE’S SEEMINGLY INDIGENOUS LIFE Henry proposed to Julie in 1988. His personality was exuberant. | Source: Youtube.com/OWN

HENRY AND JULIE’S SEEMINGLY IDYLLIC LIFE

Henry’s proposal to Julie in 1988 was as exuberant as his personality. He proclaimed: “My supreme loveliness, I love you as I love life.” Julie’s friends continuously told her how lucky she was, and she definitely felt that way.

Henry and Julie had a wonderful marriage. Their daughter Liza was born to Julie in 1998. They soon moved from the city to a smaller town and purchased a house.

Julie was a freelance graphic artist who specialized in book publisher covers. Henry enjoyed entertaining and cooking. He was also a writer.

Henry in the years preceding his death.Source: Youtube.com/OWN-HENRY’S UNEXPECTED SUCCESS. In 2003, Julie and Henry were at home together. | Source: Youtube.com/OWN

HENRY’S UNEXPECTED DEATH

One morning in 2003, Julie and Henry were both at home. Henry’s dead body was found on the kitchen floor by Julie, who shockedly walked in to the kitchen.

Julie attempted to revive Henry with CPR, but he remained unresponsive. Henry was eventually rushed to the hospital by Julie. However, doctors informed her that Henry had suffered from a pulmonary embolism.

According to doctors, the blood clot could have formed in Henry’s leg and traveled to his heart. This caused him to go into cardiac arrest. Julie was devastated by the loss of Henry, who was only 44 years old at the time.

Henry was captured on a personal video. Source: Youtube.com/OWN JULIE’S NEIGHBOR CRIES HYSTERICALLY Julie saw that Cathy was crying hysterically the day after Henry’s funeral. | Source: Youtube.com/OWN

JULIE’S NEIGHBOR CRIES HYSTERICALLY

On the day of the viewing of Henry’s body, Julie saw that Cathy, one of her neighbors, was crying hysterically. Cathy’s eyes turned red and teary as she lifted Henry’s head out of the coffin and stared at it. Source: Youtube.com/OWNJULIE DEALS with HER GRIEF Julie’s memories of the months after Henry’s death are blurred.

Julie didn’t think much of this because Cathy’s daughter, Amy, was good friends with Liza. Julie recalled:

“At the time, I was too deep in my own grief to think much about this other than that I, his widow, hadn’t allowed myself such a public display of emotion.”

Henry, Julia and Liza together. | Source: Youtube.com/OWN

JULIE DEALS WITH HER GRIEF

The months following Henry’s death were a blur to Julie. Her most difficult days were helped by a small group of close friends.

Cathy organized for a minister visit to Julie to offer comfort. Julie slowly regained her strength and was able to continue with her life. Julie’s world fell apart again seven months later after Henry died.

Julie was visiting Thomas, a good friend who was staying with her as she renovated his house. Julie expressed how much she missed Henry and Thomas asked if she missed everything about Henry.

Julia talks about her relationship to Henry. Source: Youtube.com/OWN JULIE IS CAUGHT OFF GUARD Although the question caught Julie off guard, she answered honestly that she didn’t miss everything about him, but she also felt guilty for not missing absolutely everything about him. | Source: Youtube.com/OWN

JULIE IS CAUGHT OFF GUARD

Although the question caught Julie off guard, she answered honestly that she didn’t miss everything about him, but she also felt guilty for not missing absolutely everything about him.

Thomas replied that she shouldn’t feel guilty. He told Thomas that Henry was having an illicit affair with a California woman. He went there multiple times a year for research.

But there was more. Thomas asked Julie to find out more information about Henry’s infidelities from other friends who had helped arrange Henry’s memorial service.

Julie – A side profile. Source: Youtube.com/OWN – THE FIRST AFFAIR IS DISCOVERED. Strangely, Julie wasn’t shocked when Thomas revealed that she was talking about a woman from California. | Source: Youtube.com/OWN

THE FIRST AFFAIR IS REVEALED

Strangely, Julie didn’t feel very shocked when Thomas told her about the woman in California. However, things were about get much worse.

Julie followed Thomas’s lead and called Emily, her friend, to find out more about Henry’s cheating ways.

Emily tearfully explained that while organizing Henry’s memorial service, she and other friends looked through Henry’s computer to find his address book.

Julie in closeup. Source: Youtube.com/OWN HOW HENRY’S INFIDELITIES WERE DISCOVERED They suddenly realized that Henry had a lot of emails coming in. | Source: Youtube.com/OWN

HOW HENRY’S INFIDELITIES WERE DISCOVERED

They suddenly realized that Henry had a lot of emails coming in. They discovered Henry was communicating via email with other women when they opened his inbox.

These emails showed that Henry was in a relationship with multiple women. Source: Youtube.com/OWN JULIE IS ENRAGED ALL ABOUT HENRY & CATHY’S STORY. Julie was blindsided by this revelation. But Emily had more news to share:

“Cathy and Henry were having an affair, for two years at least. We found all their emails on his computer the morning after he died.”

Oprah Winfrey speaking with Julie. | Source: Youtube.com/OWN

JULIE IS ENRAGED ABOUT HENRY AND CATHY’S AFFAIR

The moment Julie discovered this, she flew into a blind rage. She was shocked that Cathy would betray Julie like this. They were so close, especially because their daughters were so close. She recalled:

“The thought of this happening right under my nose was too devastating. I felt fury, anger, [and] frustration. I was ashamed and humiliated.”

Since Julie couldn’t confront Henry about his infidelities, she came up with another idea. She reached out to all of the women Henry had cheated on her to learn the details. Source: Youtube.com/OWN CATHY IS CONFRONTED ABOUT THE AFFAIR She decided to begin with the closest person to her, Cathy.

Julie speaking about her husband. | Source: Youtube.com/OWN

CATHY IS CONFRONTED ABOUT THE AFFAIR

She decided to begin with the closest person to her, Cathy. Julie drove to Cathy’s house, confronting her about Henry’s affair.

Cathy explained that Henry was very persuasive, and she was too weak to reject his advances. She added, “My love for you was genuine … “

This made Julie even angrier. She couldn’t believe that Cathy was sleeping behind her back, after spending so much time with her daughter and her mother.

Julie speaking about Henry. | Source: Youtube.com/OWN

JULIE SEARCHES FOR THE OTHER WOMEN

“What kind of woman does that and thinks she is being a friend? A psycho case, that’s who. You disgust me. You’re like poison,” Julie said to Cathy.

Julie continued to look for other women with whom Henry was involved. She discovered that Henry was in relationships with four more women.

Henry had affairs in Oregon with a single mother, a woman in her twenties working in a gym, an advertising executive in Manhattan and another woman on the West Coast. Source: Youtube.com/OWN THE CONVERSATIONS WITH THE OTHER WOMEN Julie recalled the conversations she had with four of these women.

Julie sitting in an interview. | Source: Youtube.com/OWN

THE CONVERSATIONS WITH THE OTHER WOMEN

Julie recalled the conversations she had with four of these women. One of them was not forthcoming with any information.

The single mom was a lot more open with information. Julie discovered that the mom and Julie shared many similarities. They even looked very similar.

The woman Henry met at the gym immediately admitted that she had a relationship with him. Julie realized that Henry had a way of seeking out vulnerable women.

Julie speaks on the telephone.Source: Youtube.com/OWN JULIE’S REFLECTIONS ON HIS MARRIAGE Julie reflected on her marriage and said that she had ignored some red flags. | Source: Youtube.com/OWN

JULIE’S REFLECTIONS ON HER MARRIAGE

Looking back on her marriage, Julie admitted that she ignored some red flags that arose during the course of her marriage:

“I think that I, like many women, had an enormous investment in the idea of my marriage, and in my identity as Henry’s wife.”

“I do think that in the end, I was able to understand and forgive most of them…His charm had worked on me, so I couldn’t be surprised that other women had found him engaging,” she said.

A side-profile of Julie. | Source: Youtube.com/OWN

JULIE’S LIFE AFTER HENRY’S DEATH

Julie even decided to tell her daughter, Liza, about Henry’s affairs. “In the end, I felt that Liza … had a deep understanding about the nature of her parents’ relationship, having witnessed many of our arguments,” Julie said.

Years after the discovery of the affairs, Julie was able to move on with her life. She met and fell in love with her partner, Will, in Brooklyn, New York.

“I keep working on forgiveness. I do not, however, wish to forget any of this,” Julie said. She said that Henry was becoming less important to her as the days went by.

HOW JULIE FEELS ABOUT HENRY NOW

Thinking of how she felt about Henry years after his passing, she said, “…I can say that I would thank him for the life I have now. This doesn’t mean that I am happy that he died…Just that I am glad to have been able to have a second chance.”

Bizarrely though, Julie maintained cordial relationships and kept in touch with Henry’s other women. She released her memoir: “Perfection: A Memoir of Betrayal and Renewal,” which was a New York Times bestseller.

Julie speaking with Oprah Winfrey. | Source:Youtube.com/OWN

Julie’s unbelievable story shows us that we never really know people as well as we think we do, but we can rise from heartbreak and live great lives. Have you ever experienced a betrayal? How did that affect you?

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