Many children spend their lives moving between foster groups, dreaming about the day they will find a forever home. One boy was rejected twice by adoptive parents before his caseworker intervened.
Caseworkers in the foster care field devote lots of time and energy to matching children with ideal families. About 75% of kids taken from their biological parents are returned to them, but this is not possible when the homes are unsafe.
Many children find love in adoptive homes, and it is a blessing that so many do. Sometimes their past can be a problem. Kids who experience conflict at a young age can develop anger issues and struggle to settle in new environments.
[Left]A young boy was looking to be adopted. [Right]An once-strange youngster, and the caseworker who became her mother. | Source: facebook.com/connie.going.716 facebook.com/taylor.diaz.1656
One troubled child entered the foster care system in 2003 when he was just three years old, and his story seemed hopeless for a long time—but There was a light at one end of the tunnelConnie Going was her name.
HE HAD AN ANGERFUL PAST
Taylor struggled for survival with his sisters for the first few years. Their parents were addicts and Taylor was punished by his father from an early age. Slowly, he developed anger issues that would make him seemingly unadoptableFor years to follow.
Caseworker Connie Going was thrilled when she placed Taylor and his siblings with an adoptive family, and she was delighted to have kept the trio together. Unfortunately, her joy didn’t last very long.
HE WAS SENTED BACK
The family kept the sisters, but they sent Taylor back into foster care because his personality clashed with his adoptive dad. Going kept looking for Taylor’s forever place, despite this setback.
She believed that she would find an adoption family for him. : “Every child is adoptable. There’s a family for every child.”Going eventually placed Taylor with another loving family. They sent him back, and she was devastated.
“I was just so mad, because I thought that they weren’t going to keep me. I was just trying to test them.”
SHE FLELT PHYSICAL CHEMICAL PAIN
Going, a social worker who handled more than 2,000 adoptions in 15 years of her career, was devastated for Taylor. He had been a friend for more than 10 years and she felt physical pain when he rejected her.
SHE UNDERSTOOD HE
Taylor was 50 years old and Taylor was well-known to the caseworker. She understood Taylor’s outbursts. Going recalled an incident. Taylor threw a chair repeatedly against the wall.She went into the room to console him.
“He literally leaped across the room and threw himself on me and sobbed. It went on for about an hour.”
“WHY DON’T YOU ADOPT ME?”
Taylor and his caseworker had a close-knit bond, and when he was ten, he Ask Going a question that caught her off guard. They were driving to a Ruby Tuesday’s restaurant when he asked: “Why don’t you adopt me?”
Going, who was going through a divorce and had two children, offered Taylor a list. She told him there was a better home for him, and she put off the question.
SHE DID EVERYTHING TO FIND HIM A HOUSE
Going tried her best to find Taylor a permanent home and gave up ten years of herself to this cause. She featured photos of him on television segments and had a portrait done with a non-profit organization that showcased kids available for adoption.
Unfortunately, none of these efforts led to adoption inquiries. Going couldn’t bear the thought of Taylor being rejected a third timeSo, she decided to adopt Taylor.
CASEWORKER TO MOTHER
Going knew it wouldn’t be easy, but She saw Taylor as he was.—a boy who wanted to be loved. She Share: “When you feel you’re not loveable, and you’re up against someone loving you, that’s a pretty scary thing.”
The caseworker explained to Taylor why Taylor never found the right home or set of parents. It was because He was always a part of her.
THE ADOPTION HAS BEEN MADE OFFICIAL
Taylor became the father he had hoped for in 2013, when a court approved the adoption. It wasn’t perfect but it was what he needed.
Taylor knew Going was a fun, outgoing woman who took him to dinners. He gradually became more comfortable with her being his rule-enforcing mother. It was clear that the duo was meant for each other, despite the difficulties.
FINALLY, HE FOUND HIS FOREVER HOME
Going gave Taylor a book that was very special in the courtroom. “The Velveteen Rabbit,” and she told him it was about a rabbit who became real after he experienced love.
The connection between them was undeniable, and the adoptionIt was a very special moment for all of us. After a decade of moving, it was finally time to relax. The youngster has finally found his forever home.
LIFE BEFORE THE ADOPTION
Going and Taylor’s relationship continued to grow after the adoption, and she managed his anger outbursts as best she could. There were moments of tension and broken mirrors. After a few more months, the rage subsided.
Going shared that Taylor once told her he was running away from home, to which she Answered: “‘I’m not sending you away, Taylor.’ And he would look over at me, take his backpack off and head back in.”
IT WAS WHERE THEY BELONG
Taylor learned over time that Taylor’s adoptive mother was not going to abandon him and she was still going to love him. He : “Yeah, this is where I belong. She knows my worst side, and she still cares about me and still loves me.“
Taylor and Going’s inspiring story is inspiring. Despite all the rejections and setbacks, things turned out in the best of ways. Click here for another beautiful story about a caseworker who adopted a child after he went through 20 foster homes.