It can be a very emotional experience to re-connect with an ex-love. TODAY show co-host Jill Martin recently opened up doing just that. Special Title The New Rules to Finding Love — for TODAY All Day — Martin got candid about her relationship with Erik Brooks, who is both her former and current fiancé. Martin, recalling telling Brooks about a crucial moment in their relationship, recalled the heated exchange. “If you walk out this door, we will never speak again.”
“One day, he was like, ‘I can’t fight anymore.’ And I was really bad for a really long time. It caused me to re-evaluate what was important to me,”She said this in preview of the special. Martin and Brooks were first introduced in 2017. They got married in 2019. The pair broke off their engagement in 2020, Then, in 2021, the pair rekindled their romance and are once again engaged. Martin is also involved in the new special. You wrote an essay TODAYBrooks’ romance is rekindled in this interview. “Getting back together with Erik, after a 16-month split with no contact, was complicated yet beautiful in some ways. The process was important. It gave me confidence both in our relationship and as a woman,”She wrote.
Martin added: “Although the ‘baggage’ we each brought to the relationship the first time around didn’t match up, it does now. We did the work. Nobody is perfect. Everybody has stuff. It’s about whose stuff you can deal with. Finding love is like a puzzle.”
Martin uses her essay to tell her story. She also spends time challenging her generation. “to rewrite the antiquated dating rules”They were raised believing in. “We need new dating rules – and not the ones I grew up with, either. The old rules that were written about and talked about when I was growing up are outdated – waiting three days before calling someone back, saying you aren’t available even when you are, always ending the date or conversation first.”
She continued: “I don’t believe that is the way to find your perfect person. I believe many of those actions just represent rude behavior and game-playing. When I was growing up, I would head home to look for the red light on the house phone, indicating I had a message. Now, everyone knows that most of us have our phones at all times and see texts, if not instantaneously, within a few hours.” The New Rules to Finding LoveAirs April 4, at 11:30 a.m., and 7 p.m. ET on TODAY All Day.