Man splits opinions after taking his girlfriend on a holiday for her birthday, but refuses to pay her

A MAN caused controversy online when he took his girlfriend on holiday to celebrate her birthday. However, he made her pay almost all of the expenses once they arrived.

Reddit user, man, posted about how he had given his partner flights and a hotel as a birthday gift, but then expected that she would pay for food and outings after they had arrived.


A man asked his girlfriend if he was wrong to make her pay for the things she wanted on their trip for her birthdayCredit: Alamy

He wrote that he felt it fair that she pays the bills for food, outings, etc. It was not something that we discussed, but it caused some friction.

“I felt like she’d booked something special for me, and she kept asking to split the cost of the things down the middle.

“Unspoken tension caused us both to not open our wallets when it came time to paying for items, and both expected each other to do the same.

“I spent much more on her gift that she did on mine.

“We didn’t have a pre-agreed amount to spend, but when I booked it, she knew it was more expensive than what she had bought me.”

Later, he edited the original post to clarify that he had not made his girlfriend pay for everything. However, he maintained his belief that he was right due to the cost of the holiday.

He also added: “I didn’t mind paying for some things. I just expected her to pay at least more than half, because I had paid a lot to take her on holiday and her gift for me was significantly smaller a few months prior.”

Some people understood his point of view. One person stated that love languages must include material goods/gifts. You LIKE to be loved and not give love languages.

“But, if your love language was material things/gifts, your girlfriend should’ve known. I.E. have that conversation with her. If y’all been dating long enough to go on holiday, Y’all been together long enough to already have had this conversation.”

However, other users didn’t see it that way. The majority of the people were on his side.

One wrote: “The fact she wanted to go 50/50 was perfect, absolutely fair. To expect her to pay more, because your gift was more expensive than what she got you, is ridiculous. Quite frankly, you suck.”

Another agreed: “There’s no way you’re this big of an idiot. You took her on a birthday trip and then proceeded to ruin it.

A third commenter said: “You planned this as her birthday gift?” In what universe would it make sense to tell her she had to pay for her gift, If that happens, it isn’t a gift.

This isn’t the first time that a boyfriend has split opinions on holiday. One man upgraded his ticket to first-class while his girlfriend was left in economy.

Another changed his holiday dates to make sure he was away with his mates on the birthday of his girlfriend, despite his promise that he would not.

Most people were not on his side


The majority of people weren’t on his side.Credit: Alamy


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