‘I stormed out of my birthday party because my dad won’t give me family heirloom’

A woman has asked others for their opinions after her dad told her the reason he wouldn’t hand over a family heirloom – which she’d had her sights set on for years

A young woman has revealed the reason her dad wouldn’t give her a family heirloom for her birthday

A woman who recently celebrated her 20th birthday says she “stormed out” of her party after realising she wasn’t being given a family heirloom.

The woman, who has posted anonymously on Reddit, said she decided to celebrate her birthday with an intimate group of immediate family and close friends at a sushi restaurant.

She said “everything was going well” until it was time for her to open her presents.

The birthday girl explained there is a tradition in her family to pass down a family heirloom to the eldest born in each generation on their 20th birthday.

The heirloom is a pocket watch owned by her great grandfather, who was taken in by some missionaries and became a teacher during the time of the British Empire.

The woman had a huge argument with her father


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She explained: “As a teacher he was super instrumental to the community and partly funded the first black owned school there.

“He became headmaster and as thanks, the community chipped in to get him a pocket watch.”

The woman, who is extremely proud of her ancestor’s achievements, said it became a tradition to pass down the pocket watch through the generations.

“As per tradition, l was expecting to get the watch. I had even made an effort of hinting how l wanted a watch for the whole year prior,” she said.

At her birthday dinner, she spotted a parcel on the table that looked like the gift she wanted most – her great-grandfather’s watch.

“I made a deliberate choice to open that box last to make sure the night ended on a highlight,” she said.

But when she opened it, she was faced with disappointment.

She had indeed been gifted a watch by her parents, but it was a brand new digital model, rather than the vintage version she’d set her sights on.

The woman said: “My dad was excited as he went on prattling about the features of the watch, it could count steps, connect to my phone via Bluetooth, control music, measure my heart rate etc.

“While he talking l burst into tears and left the table running.”

Her concerned father ran after her and the pair had a confrontation when he asked why she was upset.

“l wanted the watch, the one that belonged to my great grandfather. He said he wanted to give it to my younger brother who is 12 since he is boy,” she said.

“If he gives it to me, it will leave the family since I’ll get married to a man and join his family.”

The woman said her dad’s words came as a “blow” because she has always had a closer relationship with her dad than her brother has.

She added she doesn’t even think her brother is interested in the watch like she has been for her entire life.

The woman said: “We got into an argument and it ended with him saying my immaturity over such a small matter is why he wouldn’t have given the watch to me even if l was a boy.

“I left after he said that. That was two weeks ago, and we haven’t spoken since.”

In a later edit, the woman said she probably shouldn’t have stormed out but added: “I was super overwhelmed by my feelings.”

After asking other people to give their opinions on whether or not she was in the wrong, many jumped to defend her.

One person wrote: “Your father is passing you over for an important family heirloom because you are not a boy. In other words, sexism. I do not blame you for being upset.”

Another said: “Her father never communicated his intention for it to go to the oldest SON and only came clean on this devastating news when she opened up the replacement gift.”

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